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NEW YEAR NEW DREAMS
January 12, 2019
Goal setting is always fun because I have crazy visions for life and actually think they will be accomplished. But there’s something about writing them out and forming them into actual steps and plans that makes them become incredibly overwhelming. Opportunities become a threatening giant and I feel smaller than David with what seems like even less faith than he had. The risk seems far too high for chasing dreams to actually be worth it.
As I’m debating with myself and simultaneously suiting up for battle, God stops me in my tracks and gives me a glimpse of His perspective...
“Ashley, when did life become about you taking on battles and accomplishing dreams on your own? Your greatest accomplishment is to receive my grace and rest in my love. I’m the one who’s fighting your battles, I’m the one who’s propelling you forward, I’m the one who will accomplish the dreams I Myself gave to you! The visions you see for your life and for those around you? Those are to drive you to Me - not to drive you to DO on your own!
Your dreams seem lofty and far away, and that is my gracious design! You become overwhelmed trying to accomplish them on your own, and that is my grace to you! Through these dreams I gave you, I am causing you to become a woman who desires me more than you desire anything you could accomplish. A woman who relies on me for every step. A woman whose ultimate goal is to love me with every thought, every breath.
So when you get overwhelmed by these grand visions and the path I am taking you on, breathe. The purpose of that breath you just took was to love Me. Plain and simple.
In my grace, I give you dreams and visions. In my grace, I lead you forward in them. In my grace, I say “not yet, precious one.” Because I want you to know that life is never about what you accomplish - it’s about loving and being loved by Me. It’s about who My love is shaping you to be.
You may not have accomplished all your goals in 2018, and that is My grace to you. You may not have every opportunity you desire in 2019, and that is my grace to you as well.
“Your success is determined by what I have done, not by what you do.”
2018 was full of surprises - yes, the opportunities I had, the incredible things I got to be a part of, and the beautiful people I got to journey with. But the greatest surprises have been who I am becoming because of what God did on my behalf.
It’s not about what I want to do in 2019, it’s about who I want to be. Actually, it’s about who God is forming me to be as I live with him. This year, I’m not setting goals of what I want to accomplish, I’m asking God to show me who he wants me to become. (Even this is not about working hard to become that person, but working with the Lord as he forms me to be that woman.)
Success is not accomplishing goals, success is celebrating what God already accomplished
December 6, 2018
I went on a walk with Jesus by a mountain stream. He told me he had a gift to give me. Curious, I asked what it was. “My peace I give to you.” “Are you kidding, Jesus? That’s so cliche. Do you think I have anxiety or something? Psh, you give that gift to everyone - in fact, that’s straight scripture, and pretty generic at that…I want something different, something fresh.”
I was shocked at my own words and response. I’ve never responded to a gift in that way. The more I thought about it, the more I realized that if Jesus wanted to give me more peace, that would probably be a good thing. “I’m sorry Jesus. I’m sorry for not believing you know what I need. I’m sorry for rejecting the gift you wanted to give me. If you still want to give it, I want to receive it.”
“Sweet daughter, I’ve already given it to you and I won’t take it away. But here’s how it will be a fresh gift to you! I am giving you this gift through the gift of companionship. My presence with you is your peace. Everywhere you go, look around and you will see that I, your companion, am there with you. The more you are aware of me, the more peace you will experience. This is my gift to you because I love you.”
The waterworks started in my eyes so I jumped in the water and had a water fight with Jesus, my favorite companion 🏄♂️
I had never really considered myself an anxious person before, but legit, this has changed everything. Everywhere I go, every situation I’m in, Jesus reminds me to look for him. He never fails to show himself to me, and restore to me the gift of peace through his companionship. He is so so kind.
jesus loves witches
November 26, 2018
We were about to leave the coffeehouse when they came over to the table in front of our couch and asked if they could use it. Jokingly I said I’d just stay there and join their conversation. They hesitantly laughed (sometimes my sarcasm can be hard to detect, I’ll admit), then answered, “Welllllll it’s kind of a strange thing to have a conversation about...” I have a lot of bizarre conversations and at this point just embrace the awkwardness. “What are you guys planning to talk about?” *Looking back and forth at each other* “Witchcraft. We study it.”
I’m fascinated by why people believe what they believe and why people act like they act. So I asked them what they were discovering and what drew them to witchcraft (at this point, I was internally screaming JESUS TAKE THE WHEEL WHAT DO I SAY). They told me they were in search of power in their own lives. They wanted to be able to control and manifest things - even good things on earth. They wanted to be influencers. They told me they believe that by aligning our mind, will, and actions, we have the power to manifest and influence what we want to see happen on earth.
They compared this to other religions, saying that every religion contains rituals for you to get what you want (I believe the search for power and significance often leads us to seek control of what we cannot understand). They compared this to Christianity - but their idea of Christianity was misconstrued. They had been told (even by pastors) that being a Christian is about WHAT YOU DO.
The truth is, Christianity is not about what you do. Christianity is about WHAT GOD DID - not because we appeased him, but because he loves us. I don’t have to try to manipulate God to do what I want him to. He is a good Father, absolutely in control, who wants to (and does) give good gifts.
they had been told Christianity is about what you do
the truth is, christianity is about what god did
He GIVES out of love.
My new friends were missing the point of what they were searching for. At the core, they were searching for love. If only they knew the LOVE that is in control and has already begun His reign! Jesus told me not to say anything or question them or correct them. He told me simply to listen to them and love these new friends.
We have a tendency to think what we’re missing is something within our grasp that we can earn if we just BELIEVE enough, BEHAVE enough, and TRY hard enough. But that’s not Good News.
The Good News is that we already have access to what we’re missing! My best friend, my King, willingly died to give it to me - with no conditions. We have access to this infinite love! And we who have it, have a call on our lives to LOVE infinitely, so that others can see what they are missing is Jesus. Jesus, who is himself, love.
stalkers, seminary, & songs
October 21, 2018
Yes, I’m in seminary. No, I’m not quitting music.
Yes, I’m loving every minute. No, I don’t plan to be a pastor.
Surprised? So am I. Here’s the story. It’s long, but it’s good.
Back in January, God told me I was entering a training season that would be one of the most foundational times of my life. I had no clue what that meant, but I was excited because my current life seemed a far cry from life-giving. A couple months later I told God, “I’m tired of being a teacher. I just want to be a learner for once. I long for a teacher who cares about my whole self, not just about me learning something.”
Around the same time, I started running into this 60 year old man everywhere I went. It wasn’t just at the same place, or at the same time on the same day...it was random places at random times. And he wasn’t stalking me - he’d already be there, then I’d show up. So if anything, I was stalking him (but I wasn’t, I swear). I texted one of my friends each time I saw him, and she insisted that I HAD to talk to him -- but what was I supposed to say? Hey, I see you everywhere? How bout no.
It got to the point where I knew the days I was going to run into him, and would even recognize his voice across a room (creepy, right?). One day I had an extra 30 minutes before I had to be somewhere, so I decided to hit up a starbucks on my way. As soon as I turned my blinker on, I knew he’d be there. “Jesus, if he’s there today, I’m talking to him. I promise.” Sure enough, I walk in and he’s just sitting there at a table by himself. Still clueless about what I was going to say and what kind of conversation it would lead to, I approached the 60-year-old mystery man with fake confidence.
“Hey, I know this is really weird, but I’ve been seeing you around a lot lately, and just wanted to be able to say hi and let you know I’m not stalking you!” (Great initial conversation-starter, eh?) He looked a little surprised as he smiled, “Oh, I know a lot of people your age since I’m a professor, so I just assume anyone who looks familiar is a student of mine. But I’m guessing you’re not?” Turns out he’s a religion professor at a local college, happens to know one of my college religion professors (all the way out in Nebraska), does research on the same topic I did my senior project on, and loves Jesus. We talked for the next half hour about religion, philosophy, our stories, and where we’re headed next.
Out of nowhere, he interjected, “I’d love to be a resource for you and help you find a grad school to continue studying religion!” I had no desire to go back to school. At all. I tried to brush it off, but he kept making connections, telling me people and places to look up, as well as books to read. He went so far as to send me his own unpublished research so I could continue studying! I wrapped up the conversation, thankful I had been bold enough to talk to him, but oblivious to what effect, if any, it would have on me (and why God thought it SO important that he kept making our literal paths cross).
As I drove off, something in me that had been dead for a long while began to breathe again. I had no words to describe it, but I couldn’t stop smiling -- even though my meeting with the mystery man hadn’t altered any of my future plans, I was all of a sudden so excited about life. I found myself researching graduate religion programs that night. What am I doing? I’m a musician, still paying off college debt. This makes no sense. Close browsers, get back to making music.
As if it was that easy to get away from it...on the phone with my dad the next day, I told him about my odd encounter, and my newfound unexplainable zeal for life. I also confessed that the last year had been pretty rough for me, and I hadn’t written a song by myself or for myself since before I gave my senior religion presentation. “Ashley, remember the conditions of your life when you wrote all the songs for your album? You were spending every morning just studying God’s Word, and all those songs flowed as a response to what God was revealing to you. If you want to write again, it’s time to get back into studying God’s Word seriously. You should consider seminary!” Yeah but…
I found myself reaching out to a seminary that night to ask about taking a part-time class. The very next morning, I received an email back from the Vice President of the seminary, who apparently knew me. “Ashley, I saw you lead worship a few years ago, and already knew then God was calling you into Christian leadership! This could be a great place for you to be equipped.” ...ok God, I’m listening?
Two days later, I woke up in the middle of the night experiencing significant spiritual attack. Almost too scared to even sing, I just started whispering the name “Jesus”, which then turned into “Jesus, Jesus, you make the darkness tremble...” (thanks for this prayer, Mosaic Worship). I kept singing, and eventually realized I wasn’t singing a song already written, at which point I asked -- “God, are we writing a song right now?!” It was just like “the old days” when I didn’t have to try, lyrics and melodies just flowed as I listened to the Lord. If you want to write again, it’s time to get back into studying God’s Word seriously.
Long story short, I turned in my seminary application the day it was due. I never saw the mystery man again until the day I had my seminary interview (4 months after I met him), having just asked God for confirmation that he really did want me to go to The Master’s Institute. And I’m writing songs again -- in fact, I’m so excited about them that I’M RELEASING A LIVE EP THIS FRIDAY, OCTOBER 26TH!
Oh, I love my Jesus. And I love that He’s a God of surprises.
2018: not about me
January 5, 2018
While I was leading worship at Center Stage at Christmas, God told me that 2018 was to be a year of PRAISE...which really didn't mean much when I first heard it. I mean, I lead worship every week and write Christian music for my job, so isn't that enough praising? Turns out, I didn't really know what praise meant.
If you spend very much time around me at all, you'll hear me yell "PRAISES!" just about any time something good happens. But to be honest, I didn't even know exactly what that word meant beyond singing about Jesus (that's rough to admit, as a worship leader). So I looked it up.
To praise is to proclaim who God is, and call attention to His goodness. It's almost funny - often in worship, we tend to focus our attention on someone leading and how good THEY are. But God's entire purpose in giving us those gifts is to draw attention to HIM - because he actually deserves our attention and love.
(Sidenote: I used to think that it was selfish of God to demand our praise. But loving God means loving others, and loving others is loving him. When my eyes are fixed on him, I forget about myself and my selfish desires, and I recognize him as the highest good and the source of all good. How is it selfish to point others to the source of all good?)
So when I sing, I'm literally drawing people's attention to the source of all good things, which is God. When I think about that for a while, I feel empowered to be bold in singing even in places where it's uncomfortable or where I could be rejected. But the problem is, it's easy to forget that and focus back on myself.
What keeps me from singing? Start with insecurity, throw in some fear of rejection, add in the enemy telling me I'm not good enough... as the odds stack up against me, my mouth stays closed, lips stay silent, and my eyes stay fixed on myself. In Psalm 51, David cries out to God, "Open my lips, Lord, and my mouth will declare your praise." God, I just need you to help me open my mouth, then everything that comes from it will be yours! Later, in Psalm 81, God says, "Open your mouth and I will fill it." I often hear him tell me that when my faith is wavering. But as I open my lips in simple obedience, his breath fills my lungs, and a melody releases from his heart to mine.
When I open my mouth in praise, I literally forget all my doubts and I KNOW that God and all his promises are true. When I praise God, I'm fighting darkness and fear, I'm fighting to believe Love, and I'm fighting for freedom. (Praising God actually wins physical battles - check out 2 Chronicles 20)! God challenged me to start every morning by singing to Him, and end every day the same way. It seemed like a bit much at first, but wow, does it do wonders for my soul. To praise is to rejoice in all God has accomplished, and declare His victory over what we have yet to see accomplished. Every single time, praise renews my hope, and restores my joy. Starting and ending each day like this is changing my world.
When my focus is on God in worship, I remember who I am, and that I was created to praise him. But at the same time, I get so lost in him that I forget about myself and am only aware of His presence in Me. I forget my selfish desires, and just want to love Him and others with all that I am. When God is the song on my lips, he is also the focus of my mind, and the desire of my heart.
I was crafted for the very purpose of drawing attention to God and his goodness. 2018 is not about me.
The middle of the pile-up
October 14, 2017
I feel like I got hit by an 80,000 pound truck…oh wait. I did.
It was 0% my fault, but my immediate reaction was shame. How could I have let this happen? What will people think of me? I felt paralyzed, trying to figure out what had just occurred, unwilling to believe what I didn’t want it to be. I had been knocked around with several impacts in front and behind, and as I spun into the other lane, I waited, expecting another hit. It never came.
In the silent moments of aftermath as I sat in my car, I again experienced shame – why wasn’t my first reaction to cling to Jesus? When I literally saw my life flash before my eyes, why wasn’t Jesus the first thing on my mind? All of a sudden, I heard God whisper, “I’m still holding on to you even when you’re not holding on to me.”
To be honest, me and Jesus haven’t been super tight recently. (And let’s be real – that’s 100% on me). It’s not that I’ve moved on or that I’ve given up on him, but I haven’t been giving him the attention he deserves – sometimes it just feels easy to choose other things before him, and listen to other voices before his. He’s been pursuing me, but I haven’t exactly been pursuing back. Honestly, I’m pretty ashamed of that. And each day that growing shame piles up in front of me (just like that 5-car interstate pile-up), and keeps me from seeking Jesus back. It keeps me paralyzed, feeling helpless to avoid the danger right in front of me, and unable to take a step toward safety, toward him.
But even when I’m buried deep in the middle of the pile, beat up on all sides by shame, Jesus reaches through the mess and says, “I’m here! I’m still holding on to you, even when you’re not holding on to me – BECAUSE I LOVE YOU! And nothing - no shame, no 80,000 pound truck, no 5 car pile-up - can separate you from my love!”
Not only did his love hold me and reassure me in that moment, but it also protected me (and all others involved) from any serious injuries. Can we just take a moment and give him some serious praise?! There is only one response to such a love as this – I am in awe, and just want to love him back.
bringing [easter] new life
April 16, 2017
Easter used to be my favorite day of the year. There was something magical about waking up before the sun had even started to light up the sky, getting all dressed up, then gathering with friends to watch the sun rise. The mystery breathed in the salutation, “Christ is risen!” “He is risen indeed!” captivated me to no end. There really was no way to describe the joy that I felt in singing with hundreds of people of how my Jesus did the impossible and conquered death.
But somewhere along the lines, the magic of the special day lost its luster. The words of the story became all too familiar, and the excitement of gathering with the church and singing about Jesus became ordinary. The traditions became routine, and no longer did the celebration fill me with joy. The impossibility of the miracle became commonplace, and my awe disappeared.
Instead of beholding the mystery of the resurrection in wonder, I fixed my eyes elsewhere, trying to recreate the child-like fascination I once had. No longer was winning the annual Easter Egg hunt enough for me (yes, I am the 15-year reigning champion), I needed to find other ways to satisfy my hunger for extraordinary. But with youthful innocence gone, not even a full morning of performing and music productions could come close to what I had experienced before. But at least the more I threw myself into perfecting my performance for the holiday, the more I distracted myself from that unsatisfied longing to experience the mystery of it once again. As I strived to make the day what I wanted it to be - a special feeling, a special performance, and a special opportunity to display my gifts - I grabbed hold of Easter and made it about me.
"Despite the way you reached out to let go of Me and take hold of what is Mine, I reached out to take hold of you in love and make you Mine."
I still looked like I was glorifying Jesus, and honestly, my heart wanted it to be about him. But since I couldn’t find that special feeling back, I was stuck, trying to breathe new life into it by making it about me and my performance. And we’re not just talking about Easter here - this is a picture of what my entire life had become.
As this Easter approached, I kept my head down and tried not to think about my desire for it to be different. I detested the idea of meaninglessly going through the motions of tradition again, but felt resigned to it. As a last hope, I told God my desire. I asked him to give me a new perspective on Easter, but didn’t really expect an answer, and definitely not the one he gave me. It was as if Jesus was looking me in the eyes and saying...
“I was killed because you tried to reach for something that was not yours. You reached for Me, not to have relationship with Me, but to take what I could give you – ultimately in an attempt to take control of Me. You tried to reach for life, truth, joy, and wisdom apart from Me, that you might take what I have to give as your own, and leave Me behind. Yet despite the way you reached out to let go of Me and take hold of what is Mine, I reached out to take hold of you in love and make you Mine. Despite the way you exchanged Me for the likes of a bag of coins, I exchanged My life for yours, and bought you back. Despite the fact that you killed Me, I gave you true life. The only way I could get you back was to trade My life for yours. And because I love you with a love you can’t even fathom, I did. The same love that the Father has for Me, I have for you. The same way that the Father and I are connected, I want to be connected to you. So accept my invitation to come and dwell with us! There is no life apart from Me. You are not your own. You were bought at a price! And now that you are mine, I bring you new life!”
As Far As I Run (away)
January 6, 2017
One afternoon, when I was six or seven, my neighbor gave me two mini snickers bars. Instead of eating them, I put them in the top drawer of my dresser for safe keeping, so that just in case I ever needed to run away, I would have some food to bring along. First of all, that would not have lasted me very long. Secondly, what kind of kid was I...storing candy instead of eating it right away? And third, what on earth possessed me to think I’d ever need to run away? I remember finding the buried snickers bars a couple years later and throwing them out because they were hard as a rock. Needless to say, I never followed through with my escape plan.
More recently, though, I’ve found myself having the urge to run away. Not from home (ha, I don’t even live at home anymore), but from people, from dreams, from expectations, from reality. And in fact, sometimes I do run away from these things for a while…until I run out of snickers and have to go back because I’m hungry, which doesn’t take long. But really, what is it that gives me the urge to run away? And what is it that always draws me back?
I’ve found that often the urge to run away tends to be the strongest when God is calling me to press into something difficult. Take relationships as an example. I hate conflict. When people are mad at me, it feels like the end of the world – ESPECIALLY when my near-sighted eyes can’t see resolution and reconciliation in the close future. So instead of turning to Jesus and clinging to hope, I take the road more travelled and high-tail my way out of that relationship. But sometimes there are those annoying people (like my best friend), who sit across from you on the couch, stare you in the eye, and say, “I’m not taking ‘no answer’ as an answer. Let’s press into this together.” THAT’S the worst…until you’ve actually pressed into the real reason for the conflict and come out on the other side closer than you ever were before. Jesus spoke to me through that situation, “Ashley, as far away as you run, I will still want you. I will still pursue you and lead you back, closer to my heart.”
One of my biggest fears is hurting people. As soon as I sense that I’ve wounded someone, I have the immediate urge to run away (also known as a “hit and run”). But what makes the situation even worse, is when the person I’ve hurt doesn’t get angry, but they choose to forgive and then do something kind for me instead. The one car accident I’ve been in was my fault. We pulled off to a gas station while the cop was working on the paper work, and while we were sitting there, the owner of the other vehicle offered to buy me hot chocolate…uh…STOP SHOWING ME GRACE – I JUST WRECKED YOUR CAR. You know that story in the Bible where the arrogant second son asks his dad for his inheritance (essentially telling him to go die) then runs away with the money? Then after he runs out of all the cash and has no more snickers to tie him over, he shamefully returns home to ask his dad if he can work for him as a servant. What does the father do? He doesn’t give him a job. He throws him a PARTY, lavishes him with gifts, and restores his place in the family. “As far away as you run, I will welcome you back with joy, and lavish you with unchanging, real love.”
On my second day of recording vocals in Atlanta, I ran away. A couple miles from the studio, I laid on a grassy hill and sobbed. I ran away because I kept hearing over and over, “You’re not good enough. No one will actually want to listen to your music. You think God would really call you to do this?” A friend recently told me that the enemy will go to great heights to get us to run as far away as possible from what God is calling us into. And he had almost succeeded; all I wanted to do was give up. I called my dad, and between his own tears, he reminded me of the truth. God gave me a voice, and God gave me songs. And God takes immense delight in hearing me sing to Him. He spoke to me, “As far away as you run, I will meet you there and rejoice over you.”
In the words of a song I once heard (on my album)... Your love is strong, it's raging like a storm, it chases me as far as I run.